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Play your Cards Right
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Monday, May 25, 2009
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For the past seven months I've been single, i realized that the dating scene has been more different then what i was 2 three years ago. You see, me and my last boyfriend were together for all most a year and a half , so when we broke up in October 08 i figured that i would had a new boyfriend and move on by at least February. but unfortunately, its just been kind of downhill here let me describe:
Guy 1: I meet him on a double date chill thing with my friend and guy3( you will hear about him later on in the story) this one was a complete nut job and an ass clown that thought he can manipulate me with is dumb ass mind games i had to stop talking to him after this heifer was infatuated by him and he had the nerve to call me and tell me to tell her that we never did anything. besides the sex got worse :| and i had to get Buzzed just to do it half the time.
Guy 2: well the getting to know process was good, and i thought he would be the next boyfriend... until i realized something. I'm more into trying new things, and i like color and a lot of detail in general while he was VERY SIMPLE. There was a time i took him to this restaurant in NYC called Max Brenner with my friends and while we all got these really cool freakin awesome kick ass plates of food, and he justs get a chocolate cookie. yes (insert your name here) a fucking cookie and his reason was because all the other stuff on the menu looked to elaborate. give me a fucking break ok waffles and ice cream is not that elaborate. to make a long story short, it hurt bad when i had to tell him i didn't think we were gonna go a far as friends but he understood and we still talk today as good friends. he even got me another job as a yoga teacher in Brooklyn teaching kids and teens yoga. So it wasn't that bad meeting him cause now i have 3 jobs lol
Guy 3: is actually guy1 good friend. this story start when he was talking to my friend and their situation did not go as good i guess because he kept this underlying secret that he like me more. i guessing he kept this a secret because he did not know how my friend was going to react (but anyway) he stars avoiding my friend and "secretly" AIMS me (like i wasn't going to tell my friend) so months roll over and i stop talking to his jacknob friend and guy3 hit me up to go to the museum with him so i asked my friend if she was ok with it. she honestly did not care, she told me to go ahead and go. so i went out to the museum with him and it was ok but honestly, it might be hard getting to know him more or even get in a relationship level with him based on the fact that HE SAW MY FRIEND FIRST plus his jacknob friend if fucking him up also. honestly hes a nice guy but I'm not sure if were going any further as friends just because of those point reasons i just pointed out. Maybe if he shows me better i might MIGHT RECONSIDER.
Guy4: where do i start... oh yea it was my friends birthday weekend in April and we decided to go clubbing, so we first went to club prime. we only lasted in that ghetto trash for 20min before we walked to the better club called mansion were we meet these 2 promoter guys. the first one eyed/talked to my Friend more and got us in. when we got in that's when i meet his other friend which is guy4. he introduced himself and i looked him up to down cause honestly, hes my type tall,dark skinned,athletic built, great smile, blah blah blah i can go on and on about this but its not important. anyway, an hour or so passed and we were talking about things and crazy enough we live in the same area know just about the same people and had the same interest. later after the club we exchanged numbers, went to a diner to eat, and they drove my friend and i home. its been a month and a half and we been really cool, i honestly can say i been thinking constant thoughts and i haven't had thoughts and felling like this since i was in a relationship. my mind tells me he real good, but then on the other end i feel if i tell him about my feelings now. how would he react? what would he say? and would it harm or heal us? Right now from what i get from him is that were just feeling each other out right now.i guess you can say playing our cards right. i know that hes a real good potential relationship. however, i think on his side hes not ready because he so busy and in return, I'm always busy myself. in a way I'm kinda glad that were felling ourselves out so if we do end up with each other it wont be anything fucking it up.
So whats the lesson to this? it takes a long time to find someone you really care and love a lot. i do believe in love at first sight however, taking your time and felling yourself out before you get into a relationship is also a good thing also because even though it might take 1, 2, 5 or more guys until you meet some one trust me I'm telling you its worth it. now if its taking over 5months or more then you need to give him a damn ultimatum. you need to tell yourself i am not Cassie from the official girl video dammit lol. i know I'm still single and I'm waiting for mine prince charming but i feel if i wait he will come eventually right?
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2 Comments:
Hey girly! I love the new blog. I am glad that you were on the dating scene enjoying yourself. I think that guy 4 &5 sound great, specifically 5 because you have a deeper connection with him. I say you keep things going and enjoy it. If in another month or two you still feel the same, then you should definitely confess your feelings. Or just ask him what are his intentions with you and go from there. :)
thanx Romney :)
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